In the work with trauma, excessive entitlement is often a shadow element. It reveals the ego’s developmental struggle to modify other world (archetypal) expectations in order to live well with human world limitations. This presentation will explore how the development of shame tolerance modulates excessive entitlement. The challenge for therapists is to tolerate personal inadequacy feelings and to receive and hold the client’s projected shame. When shame feelings are tolerated, honored and respected, boundaries between the shameless divine and the shameful human worlds are maintained and excessive entitlement modulates.