No theme seems more to preoccupy us than the desire for relationship, yet everywhere we see broken relationships. Why? Is it that relationships are too important? How could that be? The relationship between self and Other carries always the imprint of first relationships. In any present relationship we are inevitably enmeshed in the psychological mechanisms of projection and transference of the primal intra-psychic imago of self and Other. This lecture will explore our projection/transference dynamics, the “Eden Project”, which our hidden agenda embodies, and the search for the “Magical Other”. It will also explore the difference between being in love and loving. Relationships will ask more of us than we wish to give. But such a gift may bring us to love.